Being Neighborly Without Being Nosy
By Rose Alexander
When you’re not really sure how to interact with your neighbors, just turn the situation around. What do you expect from those who want to be neighborly with you? How much interaction would you like to have with them? Be prepared to respect their boundaries and otherwise display a neighborly attitude that reveals interest in developing a friendship while maintaining a flexible attitude and a patient spirit.
Being neighborly in twenty-first century America doesn’t mean what it used to in colonial times. But all of us like to live among those we can trust and with whom we can share common interests. Yet, at the bottom of it all is the need to respect the personal privacy and property of others and not make a nuisance of ourselves. Learning to live together in a community, whether our homes stand a few feet or a few miles apart, is up to us. Part of developing a healthy community is to find out what are neighbors want from us, and then doing our best to deliver it.
How to Be a Good Neighbor
By eHow Culture & Society Editor
- Welcome new neighbors with an introductory note or a friendly chat.
- Maintain the area around your home so that it’s neat and attractive.
- Be conscientious about noises that might disturb your neighbors, such as vacuum cleaners, music, loud talk and barking dogs.
- End parties at a reasonable hour. While you’re at it, invite your neighbors to come, too.
- Return anything that you borrow from your neighbor, such as tools or appliances, as soon as possible. Express your gratitude when you do so.
- Replace anything that belongs to your neighbor that you, your children, or your pets break or soil.
- Respect your neighbor’s privacy.
- Offer to collect mail, water plants and watch the pets while your neighbors are away on a trip.
- Learn from neighbors with cultural backgrounds different from your own.
- Invite your neighbor over for a leisurely cup of coffee to discuss any problems you may have, or to share good news.
- Throw a house party once a year on a weekend or holiday to socialize with your neighbors.